Fellow daycare parents:

I know the looks you give and the feelings you feel. In a past life – I was that parent too. When my son was in Kindergarten, we received a letter about the room being a “peanut aware” classroom so we had to refrain from bringing anything peanut. I remember feeling angry/annoyed and thinking “So my kid needs to suffer because some other kid has a stupid allergy?” but I still followed the rules.

Fast forward 9 years. A sweet bundle of joy arrived. At about 3 months of age, we started noticing hives developing randomly. Sometimes when we would lotion her after bath, sometimes after eating baby cereal. I also noticed she had what seemed a constant cold for about 3 months. All in all, it had no rhyme or reason really so I couldn’t pinpoint what was going on. One day (actually sitting at pizza barn eating supper) it clicked. SHE IS ALLERGIC TO DAIRY! So, I put a dab of cottage cheese “juice” on her cheek and sure enough - hives. When she was clinically diagnosed – I cried. As you know, there is no cure unless your body outgrows it.

Then the learning curve happened at our house. For example, did you know that if you cut a piece of cheese, and then cut a banana with the same knife – my daughter will break out in hives if she eats the
banana? Or if a child is drinking milk and bites my daughter shortly after, she will break out in hives? Or that a picnic table at a public facility has to be wiped down or she can break out in hives? How about her washing her hands in a sink where someone previously used it with “cheesy fingers?” The faucet is now contaminated and her hands break out in hives. Stupid right? But it’s not just hives, they HURT and they ITCH and then we have to Benadryl her which makes her sleepy and hallucinate. It’s not fair.

We also discovered there is such a thing as “biphasic anaphylaxis.” That means that some kids have a second reaction (thus two epi pens) and if you have a history of it you’re more likely to have it in the future. Guess what my daughter has? You guessed it. Biphasic anaphylaxis. So 24 hours later her throat
closes AGAIN from the first reaction.

I remember still vividly in October, when my daughter was hospitalized. We still cannot pinpoint for sure
but it was most likely a food reaction. She got so sick for days and she eventually gave up eating. No fluids would stay in her poor little body. We ended up at Children’s, and along with two bags of IV fluids – she also needed glucose. Her blood sugar levels were down to 47 – which is about where your brain shuts down because there is not enough glucose to function properly and you end up in a coma. Yep. From a food allergy folks.

I would give ANYTHING for her to not have food allergies. She knows that certain things are “owies” and
that she has to ask mommy before she can eat anything. She also knows to advocate for herself by telling other people and kids not to touch her with their cheesy fingers. But it’s flawed. She is 3. And she so desperately sometimes wants to eat “normal food” like mac and cheese and pizza and string cheese.

So why am I telling you all of this? Because I need your help.

Here’s what you need to know. Her allergist had informed us how severe allergic reactions are so much more than just your throat closing like we all imagine it to be, and I wanted fellow daycare parents to be informed. Symptoms include hives, swelling, coughing, vomiting, diarrhea, anaphylaxis, and rash. My daughter has had all of the above. The first time her throat closed, she drank out of a cup with cow’s milk. She started coughing (her throat was actually closing) then she looked pale and vomited so many times in such a short amount of time it was horrifying. Her hives in her mouth and her face closed her up and the wheezing started. That was by far the scariest moment of my life. What I have learned since is that the sooner you give epinephrine, the faster they recover from all symptoms and the longer you hold off, the more damage is caused to their little bodies so the faster you Epi them the better. I also wanted you to know that when letters are sent home from the daycare facility about bringing “safe treats,” it’s not because we want to make everyone’s life miserable. Seriously. I love chocolate too. It’s because it helps keeps my daughter safe. And when you to bring in treats that do not follow the regulations: now my daughter is home, I am missing work and income, because she is vomiting still, hours later.

For the parents who listened – even if it was with a crabby attitude like myself years before.. THANK YOU. There are few places I can take my daughter. Knowing she is safe in her home and her daycare are about the only places I can try to control. My daughter’s life is literally in your hands. This is real stuff folks. Her allergy albeit unwanted is real and it can and WILL kill her if something happens. The saying “it takes a village” is more applicable than what one might think. My daughter NEEDS your help and cooperation in order to simply stay alive. Thank you for listening and understanding.

~Contributed by a Bright Child parent

6. Count Down
I am big on counting down. I give them a heads up when we have 10 minutes, 5 minutes and 3 minutes when we need to start getting our stuff on. Most of the time these days they are in the car waiting for me by the time I walk out to the garage.

7. Reward Them
It doesn't need to be anything big but I give them an extra 15 minutes of screen time. It's not really extra because I have built it into the amount of screen time I actually want them to have.

As we finish up the first days of school and try to settle into our new routines there are still the anxieties that come with new places. By helping your child transition into their new schedule or environment you can help ease their worries.
Learning to separate is a lifelong process and an important part of growing up.  When you help children learn to manage separations from and reunions with their loved ones, they feel understood and gain self-confidence. A child’s stage of development influences the way he or she reacts to hellos and good-byes.  In part because they involve such strong feelings, hellos and good-byes are opportunities for valuable learning that affects all areas of young children’s development.
During separation, children will learn about themselves and others, learn about their world, and learn to communicate as well as establish and sustain positive relationships with their peers, teachers and parents.
Suggestions to Support Successful Good-byes:

1. Talk to your child about the new changes to come (including infants and toddlers) in their schedule or environment.
2. Prepare them with what to expect during the transition.
   1. “Mommy is going to go to work and you are going to go to school.” “Ms. Jennifer is going to take good care of you while Mommy and Daddy are working.” “I will come pick you up after school is over.”
3. Establish a consistent morning routine and try to eliminate rushing during the morning before school. This can cause additional stress to the child and put them on edge.
4. Bring your child’s comfort item from home such as a special blanket or stuffed animal.
5. Include family pictures for your child to look at when feeling upset.
6. Take pictures with your child in their new classroom. This can provide another way to help children feel connected to their family during the day.
7. For those children who are having a hard time transitioning or adjusting to a new classroom or school, leave an object that belongs to a family member reminding the child that their mother or father will be back. You can say “I’m leaving the book I’m reading with you. Will you keep it with your things so we can get it when I pick you up today?”
8. Establish a consistent drop-off routine and ensure it always includes saying good-bye to your child. Hellos and good-byes offer opportunities to build positive, trusting relationships with children and their families.

Young Infants who come to school before they are 6 months old may not have difficulty separating from a family member.
Mobile Infants typically show more of a preference than young infants to be with family members and special adults.  Around the age of 8-12 months children often develop anxiety about being separated from the special adults with whom they have bonded.   While helping a child through difficult separations may be challenging for both you and the child, remember that the difficulty is a sign that the child has a secure, healthy attachment with their parents.
Toddlers and twos may cheerfully wave good-bye to their families on some days. On other days, they may cling so tightly to their parents that you have to pull them off gently so that their parents can leave. If you have established a nurturing relationship with children and if they have a consistent routine, then, even on the most challenging days, children will know that they can trust you to ease them through difficult times.
Please feel free to express your questions, concerns or feedback to myself or your child’s teachers.
Warmest Regards,
Michelle

We want to foster positive relationships each child. Giving us the inside scoop on her likes, dislikes, and special needs helps us really connect with your child each and everyday. 

1. Favorite Subjects: Tell us about things that engage your child. We want to keep their minds challenged and growing.
2. Difficult Subjects: Knowing what gives your child trouble allows his or her teacher ability to pay special attention to those areas and look for ways to improve comprehension and communication. 
3. Allergies: It's essential we know about any food or other allergies and how serious they are.
4. Medical Conditions: Inform us if your child has a medical condition that might require special attention or if he takes medication recently. 
5. After-school Activities: We want to know all the exciting things your child does when they are not with us. It helps us better connect and learn about your child.
6. Religion: If your family practices a religion that requires your child to miss school, dress a certain way, or not eat particular foods we want to know.
7. Family Issues: If there's a new baby, death in the family, or divorce, it may affect your child in the classroom, keeping us updated about what's going on at home helps us help your child.
8. Sensitive Areas: Alert the teacher if your child is self-conscious about his or her weight, appearance, if she or he is shy or is particularly afraid of something, 
9. Hobbies & Interests: If your child is crazy about music, loves monkeys, or has a passion for football, we want to tap into that interests.
10. Temperament: Let the teacher know if your child tends to be cranky in the afternoon, get frustrated by art projects, or hates to take naps. Tried-and-true methods you've already discovered for dealing with less-than-ideal behavior.